The patch cable should have the grey square end that plugs directly into the radio and a female end that the small antenna cable plugs into. At least that is what I had. That patch cable -- at a quick glance, it looks like the one end is male but on mine, it has a hole that plugs into the male end of the antenna cable.
Interesting . . . that same patch cable now has a MALE connection at the end that should connect to the antenna cable. (Also male.)